quarter-life lady - Latest Comments

Re: Brace Face

Patricia — Mon, 05 Nov 2012 15:04:04 -0000

I understand braces as a temporary accessory for a permanent improvement - consider glasses a permanent accessory in case the myopia is not surgically correctable. Also, the cross bite and all the other stuff are issues, which means that straight teeth after braces have a beautiful look as a bonus, once you are correcting the issues. Go for it and consider the money an investment in yourself, I'm pretty sure you'll be happy with perfect teeth! :)

Re: I Ain’t Got (Much) Back

thatShortChick — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 21:31:49 -0000

I'm black and I don't have much junk in the trunk but it doesn't stress me out (never has). If I did, I wouldn't want the kind of attention that type of body part (if it's large) garners. I used to stress out about my small breast size but I've given up caring much about that.

Re: More Love?

thatShortChick — Sat, 08 Oct 2011 08:34:07 -0000

SO HAPPY FOR YOU!

Re: I’m in Love

Stef — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 14:10:32 -0000

I LOVE YOUR LIFE, TOO.

Re: I’m in Love

Quarterlifelady — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 13:59:52 -0000

Sure does. It's madness, I tell you.

Re: I’m in Love

jobo — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 12:48:21 -0000

I LOVE this! I am so happy you LOVE life. God works behind the scenes for us each and every day, doesn't he?

Re: Savory

Rachelshaeh — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 12:20:39 -0000

i've gotten so good at relaxing lately. if we ever actually manage to hang out, i'll share my secrets. of course, it involves not being in grad school, not having a job, and not having an internship...hm.

Re: My Heart is Warm

Yahnatan — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 07:09:54 -0000

I can totally relate to the feelings you described (although in my case it was Vangelis's soundtrack to Blade Runner). And I was also up in Baltimore at my alma mater for recruiting, which probably only contributed to the nostalgia / sense of dislocation / perspective.

Re: My Heart is Warm

Jamar — Thu, 29 Sep 2011 17:37:08 -0000

I like this.

Re: Missing

thatShortChick — Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:44:34 -0000

you do you! I know I had to take a break to really figure out how I wanted to use my blog to express what I really wanted to say...and it feels good getting back into the swing of things.

Re: Missing

jobo — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 14:45:08 -0000

Yay!! Looking forward to QLL 2.0 :)

Re: Balance

Liz — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 11:30:26 -0000

Im so in the same boat. I know there's lots I need to sort through in my heart and things I need to work on. I know that's how people work, by putting things in boxes...as in we make sense of the world and our lives by giving everything it's place and categorizing. So I know it's hard to stay away from doing that in getting to know yourself...when sometimes it's just more comfortable to quickly slap on a label and fall into that role.

Re: WSJ Can Kiss My Bootay

Liz — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 11:19:51 -0000

Scary article. However, on the bright side you do tend to date men outside your own race and according to the article, that was their solution to this 70% single rate! From a statistics view, I'd love to see how they got this 70%...cuz you know the unfortunate truth that the majority of minorities have like 5 kids by different people and havent gone for further education - 2 things that don't apply to you. Those are all factors you have to take into consideration for that number they gave you. Yes it was a trend across all socioeconomic status but would your personal percentage for likelihood to remain single really be that high? I doubt that - because you're AWESOME! And have no kids. And are educated. And are awesome. You have lots going for you. (or maybe this is just what I tell myself LOL)

Re: Identities

Stacey McDonald — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 11:30:27 -0000

yes. yes.

Re: 20sb Blog Swap — Summer

Quarterlifelady — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 11:29:48 -0000

This looks beautiful. Man, I need to get to Scotland! Thanks for sharing on my blog!

Re: Balance

jobo — Tue, 16 Aug 2011 09:06:23 -0000

Sometimes being self aware IS tiring. Seriously .But it helps us grow and harness the perspective we need, so for me, anyway, it is a necessary 'evil' at times. But I think you said it right when you say 'stop putting labels on my life and just be me." Completely agree.

Re: Balance

Nina Gallow — Tue, 16 Aug 2011 00:54:53 -0000

Philippians 4:11 Whatever position you are in (single, single n happy, single n lonely, married, married n happy, married n lonely, married n wanting to be single again...) be content.

Re: WSJ Can Kiss My Bootay

Tatiana — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 18:36:30 -0000

Articles like these tend to put the internet into a flurry. I think racialicious did a post about this. There are a lot of posts that talk about how single black women are. I don't really pay a lot of attention to it - or dating advice period.

The piece is also so heteronormative, and acts like other races of girls don't have a hard time finding mates. I've had white friends who complained to me about not knowing how to get a girlfriend. Asian girls, indian girls - everyone! The public loves to pick on black women, and treat us like we're some great anomaly out of everyone else on this planet.

Ugh.

Re: WSJ Can Kiss My Bootay

Carolyn — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 16:31:30 -0000

Great post. You are strong and articulate, as always... And this is a tough, depressing reality to face up to, I know. Thanks for posting! Love you xo

Re: WSJ Can Kiss My Bootay

Deadra — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 16:17:28 -0000

Yup... still feeling some kind of way about that as well...

Re: WSJ Can Kiss My Bootay

A.Smith — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 16:03:15 -0000

::applause::

It was a good minute before I really understood why seeing all those "engaged" notifications on facebook worked my nerves. Yeah, partially because I'm a hater, but really because I know the odds just are NOT stacked in my favor. Marriage wasn't modeled for me, I was groomed to focus on my academics/career/finances oh and there's also that pesky black thing... ::sigh:: I feel you.

This was a great post.

Re: What To Do?

mary — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 06:32:51 -0000

hi everyone,
I got aquanted with this guy in my workplace bt we did’nt have any date together during those time. i quitted my job after 1 month & this causes us to not seeing each other anymore bt we were in touch by phone. our conversation was jst limited about working matters bt we both had a kind of feeling about each other.he wanted me to see each other bt he didnt call me to determine the exact date hour. he did it 2 times & this trigger me to doubt about his feeling. After 1 year later he called me again & wanted me to have a date.finally we could meet each other. we had some conversation on phone after that dating bt he didnt answer my phone in two last times i called him. then i send him a message to finish everything. the only thing he did was sending an email that”i wish u allowded me to talk to each other”. now i dont know what to do. what do u think? is he realy interested in me? what’s his purpose? should i talk to him seriously about ourselves?

Re: Identities

Veron — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 01:10:31 -0000

I had to chuckle when I got to the milkshake and tequila bit....but I feel you. Great post. I've learned, and continue to learn, to accept ALL of who I am. Perpetual revolution. I am the 3 shots of tequila, the post orgasmic let down, and the dude looking for more...
So I try not to hide beneath any label that presents an ideal i have yet to attain. (Again...well said!)

Re: Identities

Rachel — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 05:28:41 -0000

this is awesome. that's all i got cause that's all that really needs to be said.

Re: Identities

Tia — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 20:23:27 -0000

I love this. Thank you for sharing. Today I went to a bridal shower and was the only single girl there...minus the flower girl. It will come: smile on!